Easy is Right
“What we are today comes from our thoughts of yesterday, and our present thoughts build our life of tomorrow. Our life is the creation of our mind.” ~ The Dhammapada
I’ve been working on some business human design readings for an upcoming retreat I’m participating in this coming week, and multiple times the phrase Easy is Right surfaced. In one instance the guidance was referring to joy and playfulness and in the other it was referencing force and strength.
So often we put barriers in our own way, creating friction and resistance. Who says it has to be hard? Why do we feel like we need to “earn it”?
Can’t it be easy?
Can’t it be fun?
There’s some deep work to be done to untangle the belief that everything has to be a struggle. Or that we have to use force to accomplish a task. Earning money, parenting, relationships, or any other number of things that people complain about ad nausea. We believe it’s ALL so hard. Life is SO HARD.
Can we drop that narrative? Because it gets to be easy.
Think about the last time you felt resistance to doing something. That downward motion, that heavy feeling in your core, that’s your body talking to you. That moment is not the right time to do that thing. Have you ever noticed that there will be something you need to do, that you’re dreading? You sit down to do it and it takes foreeeevvvvvvvver to get done? Whereas on another day you can do the same task in a fraction of the time. The answer lies in the synergy between the energy inside of you combined with the energy of the task.
One way I see resistance in my life is around procrastination. We all have a close relationship with procrastination. We have a deadline for a project and time and again we find ourselves waiting until the last minute to even start. We try all sorts of techniques to hack our way out of it - using pomodoro time blocking technique, creating internal deadlines that are sooner, breaking the task down, using an accountability buddy. What if procrastination was a defense mechanism we’re subconsciously creating because we’re afraid that once the thing is done, there’ll be nothing else to do? A void. There will be no more work and therefore, no money coming in? Or maybe we’re afraid of the idea of the potential silence and boredom that may be present once the task list is complete? This is lack driven by fear. Fear of lack of money, lack of distraction, lack of perceived worth.
One technique I use to combat procrastination is to just sit there. If I’m not doing the thing I decided to do, then I do nothing. It removes the pleasure-reward that I would otherwise get if I scrolled social instead of doing the thing. Sometimes, all I need is that little rest, that break to clear my head, before I can start the task. Sometimes, I need to remind myself to honor the commitment I made to myself to do the thing when I said I was going to do it. Often, I sit for just a few minutes, before I am motivated to do the task. Only then, does the task get completed with ease.
Contemplating these questions is not simple. It may even be painful. But once we identify what specific flavor of resistance we offer ourselves, the easier it will be to work through it and move to ease and flow.
Next time something feels hard, remind yourself, it’s supposed to be easy. And ask yourself, what am I doing to make this hard?
Easy is Right.
Journaling is a big part of my daily life. It’s how I know what I think. Otherwise it gets all jumbled up in my head and influences my decisions unconsciously. Living life on purpose with intention is my goal. Journaling helps me get there. Free writing is my preferred method, but sometimes I need a little push in a direction to get started. I thought maybe you may need some inspiration as well.
Enter the question of the day writing prompts:
How can I deepen my presence and appreciation of life so that I feel the day more?
How can I have more energy?
What do I need to start learning?
Who do I admire? What can I learn from them?
Where do I want to travel?
Question everything. And then move forward with grace and love.
Diane
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